Thursday, April 14, 2016
Wednesday, April 6, 2016
The Ten
Tips for being more Truthful
Barbara A. Lewis
1. Make a
commitment to tell the truth.
Reflection: When you lie to someone that will do you no good even though at the moment you think it will. Lying just leads to consequences and telling the truth is an easy way of living. When you lie once it'll just lead to more lies until when no one can trust you because they know you are a liar. Committing to yourself that you will always tell the truth is a good step into being truthful." Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do."What I will do to apply this tip is make a commitment to myself about always being honest with others and myself.
2. Tell
someone about your commitment.
Reflection: When you've done the first step of being truthful now you should tell someone about your commitment. So now you were honest to yourself that you want to be truthful. Be consistent with your commitment that is one of the most important things because if not you won't accomplish your goal. Always remind yourself of what your mindset is. " Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do." What I will do to apply this tip is tell someone the commitment I made to better myself.
3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.
Reflection: When ever you are stuck in a situation and you want to lie your way out of it always remember that eventually you are going to be caught in that lie. That small lie may lead to huge consequences that you will not want to deal with. Also think if its worth getting caught between your lie when you can just deal with it the simple way and be honest."I'd rather be honest than impressive." A great example is like when my cousin lied and his dad found out he got grounded for a week. The truth will always come around. Always ask yourself if it is worth it because if not you may have to deal with some consequences. What I will do to apply this tip is always think about the consequences or whether its worth doing or not.
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
Reflection: When you are using sarcasm it is important for you to be careful on how you use it because it can hurt the other persons feelings. Sarcasm can sometimes come as rude. Also when you are using sarcasm you might get caught in a lie you didn't intentionally try to proclaim. As the same for exaggeration and irony. You should know the definitions of them before you use it because you may use it in the wrong way. Don't mix these up with lying so this is why it is important you know the difference between those two. What I will do to apply this tip is be careful with what I say when I use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out part of it.
Reflection: Not including the whole story still means that you aren't being completely truthful. Whenever you tell the truth always include the whole truth. Don't leave part of it out because if you do and that person finds out that'll still make them believe that they can't trust you even though you didn't lie. Never twist the truth either because that will be considered as lying. Always be truthful because the worst that can come out of it is deserving some consequences but if you lie that'll make things way worse. "Better to get hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie." This is a great quote that explains why it is better to be truthful than lying. Many people believe that lying is better to do just because it is easier but you can also hurt people by doing so. What I will do to apply this tip is always say the complete truth and not twist my words.
6. Don't indulge in little white lies
Reflection: If someone tries persuading you into lying so you can help them don't listen to them. At the end you are going to serve the consequences as well because you indulged into the little white lies. Lying for someone won't prove that you're their real friend and if that person thinks that you aren't a real friend because you didn't indulge into their lie then that means that they aren't your true friend and you can find better people to hang out with than them. You don't want to turn out like them so keep away from their negative behavior. "So remember when you tell those little white lies that the night has a thousand eyes." This quote means that when you say a little lie someone will soon find out that you lied and are a liar. What I will do to apply this tip is not indulge into other lies even if my friend try convincing me to.
7. Watch out for silent lies.
Reflection: watch out for any silent lies they can be very deceiving. You yourself may not think you're lying buy in reality you are. I believe silent lies are when you lie to yourself consciencely or if someone tells you something but you keep quiet.When you seem to be agreeing to something by your words while all the time inside you are yelling STOP! or NO!, but fail to say anything or ask a question. This happens a lot because usually some people are shy or they don't want to be embarrassed incase if they get it wrong. Also since they are shy they will follow everyone else's answer even though they have a different idea that could be right. It is worth a shot to share your ideas because you will not know the outcome until you state it. What I will do to apply this tip is speak up if i have a different answer than anyone else. "Lying is done with words and also with silence." This quote explains that there is different ways of lying and you maybe didn't even know that.
8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.
Reflection: If you ever catch yourself lying make sure to stop yourself and realize what you are actually saying. Before you make that lie just make sure you fix it and up saying the truth and that shows you caught yourself from lying. This is a much better idea than actually lying. You're actually focusing on changing yourself by making sure you are actually being truthful. "You can run with a lie But you can't hide From the truth. It will catch you!" This quote explains how the truth will always find its way back to you and eventually everyone will know you lied and will consider you a liar. They will questions your truths because they don't know if you were actually ever honest with them. Lying can leave a bad reputation on you where no one will want to trust you for anything or they won't believe you at all whenever you say anything. Be careful with what you say and just be honest. I will apply this quote by always catching myself before I try to commit a lie and I'll make sure I fix it and say the truth.
9. Talk to yourself.
Reflection: If you are always lying catch yourself before you do so. Also talking to yourself can help as well. You can discuss with yourself what you can do to not lie anymore and also to figure out how you can solve that problem. Talking to yourself also helps you figure out what you are doing wrong and solve those problems with yourself. Instead of lying just talk to yourself but when you speak to others be truthful. "Be careful how you are talking to yourself you are listening." This quote helps support the idea of talking to yourself but when you do talk to yourself make sure you don't lie to yourself either because that isn't the point of talking to yourself. It is bad to surround yourself with lies. I will apply this tip by talking to myself and helping myself figure out what to do. I will also make sure that I do not lie to myself under any circumstances.
10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth
Reflection: When you are committing to always telling the truth it is okay for you to reward yourself for every truth you say. This will also help you accustom to always being truthful. But when you say a lie you should make yourself serve a consequence. Treating yourself every time you say a truth and then you treat yourself that treat will motivate you to always being truthful as well. What I will do to apply this tip is always treat myself when I say a truth and also make sure i deal with the consequences if I don't.
REFLECTION: These Ten Tips on being more truthful can benefit me on learning techniques and ways to not lie and be more honest with everyone including myself. These tips will also help me remind myself why I shouldn't lie and how to make sure I don't do it. The tips I am applying now are watching out for silent lies so for example if I am thinking something and I don't speak up about it I have just created a silent lie so what I'm doing right now is not staying quiet but speaking up, and another tip I am using is treating myself when I tell the truth so I can boost my motivation to be honest. These two tips I am using have made a difference in my life by helping me become more honest and giving myself reasons to being honest and making myself feel good about my honesty. I will incorporate the other tips into my Life Planning Goals and plans by being honest with myself about the goals I am listening and being truthful if I will be able to commit to them everyday.
3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.
Reflection: When ever you are stuck in a situation and you want to lie your way out of it always remember that eventually you are going to be caught in that lie. That small lie may lead to huge consequences that you will not want to deal with. Also think if its worth getting caught between your lie when you can just deal with it the simple way and be honest."I'd rather be honest than impressive." A great example is like when my cousin lied and his dad found out he got grounded for a week. The truth will always come around. Always ask yourself if it is worth it because if not you may have to deal with some consequences. What I will do to apply this tip is always think about the consequences or whether its worth doing or not.
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
Reflection: When you are using sarcasm it is important for you to be careful on how you use it because it can hurt the other persons feelings. Sarcasm can sometimes come as rude. Also when you are using sarcasm you might get caught in a lie you didn't intentionally try to proclaim. As the same for exaggeration and irony. You should know the definitions of them before you use it because you may use it in the wrong way. Don't mix these up with lying so this is why it is important you know the difference between those two. What I will do to apply this tip is be careful with what I say when I use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out part of it.
Reflection: Not including the whole story still means that you aren't being completely truthful. Whenever you tell the truth always include the whole truth. Don't leave part of it out because if you do and that person finds out that'll still make them believe that they can't trust you even though you didn't lie. Never twist the truth either because that will be considered as lying. Always be truthful because the worst that can come out of it is deserving some consequences but if you lie that'll make things way worse. "Better to get hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie." This is a great quote that explains why it is better to be truthful than lying. Many people believe that lying is better to do just because it is easier but you can also hurt people by doing so. What I will do to apply this tip is always say the complete truth and not twist my words.
Reflection: If someone tries persuading you into lying so you can help them don't listen to them. At the end you are going to serve the consequences as well because you indulged into the little white lies. Lying for someone won't prove that you're their real friend and if that person thinks that you aren't a real friend because you didn't indulge into their lie then that means that they aren't your true friend and you can find better people to hang out with than them. You don't want to turn out like them so keep away from their negative behavior. "So remember when you tell those little white lies that the night has a thousand eyes." This quote means that when you say a little lie someone will soon find out that you lied and are a liar. What I will do to apply this tip is not indulge into other lies even if my friend try convincing me to.
Reflection: watch out for any silent lies they can be very deceiving. You yourself may not think you're lying buy in reality you are. I believe silent lies are when you lie to yourself consciencely or if someone tells you something but you keep quiet.When you seem to be agreeing to something by your words while all the time inside you are yelling STOP! or NO!, but fail to say anything or ask a question. This happens a lot because usually some people are shy or they don't want to be embarrassed incase if they get it wrong. Also since they are shy they will follow everyone else's answer even though they have a different idea that could be right. It is worth a shot to share your ideas because you will not know the outcome until you state it. What I will do to apply this tip is speak up if i have a different answer than anyone else. "Lying is done with words and also with silence." This quote explains that there is different ways of lying and you maybe didn't even know that.
Reflection: If you ever catch yourself lying make sure to stop yourself and realize what you are actually saying. Before you make that lie just make sure you fix it and up saying the truth and that shows you caught yourself from lying. This is a much better idea than actually lying. You're actually focusing on changing yourself by making sure you are actually being truthful. "You can run with a lie But you can't hide From the truth. It will catch you!" This quote explains how the truth will always find its way back to you and eventually everyone will know you lied and will consider you a liar. They will questions your truths because they don't know if you were actually ever honest with them. Lying can leave a bad reputation on you where no one will want to trust you for anything or they won't believe you at all whenever you say anything. Be careful with what you say and just be honest. I will apply this quote by always catching myself before I try to commit a lie and I'll make sure I fix it and say the truth.
Reflection: If you are always lying catch yourself before you do so. Also talking to yourself can help as well. You can discuss with yourself what you can do to not lie anymore and also to figure out how you can solve that problem. Talking to yourself also helps you figure out what you are doing wrong and solve those problems with yourself. Instead of lying just talk to yourself but when you speak to others be truthful. "Be careful how you are talking to yourself you are listening." This quote helps support the idea of talking to yourself but when you do talk to yourself make sure you don't lie to yourself either because that isn't the point of talking to yourself. It is bad to surround yourself with lies. I will apply this tip by talking to myself and helping myself figure out what to do. I will also make sure that I do not lie to myself under any circumstances.
Reflection: When you are committing to always telling the truth it is okay for you to reward yourself for every truth you say. This will also help you accustom to always being truthful. But when you say a lie you should make yourself serve a consequence. Treating yourself every time you say a truth and then you treat yourself that treat will motivate you to always being truthful as well. What I will do to apply this tip is always treat myself when I say a truth and also make sure i deal with the consequences if I don't.
REFLECTION: These Ten Tips on being more truthful can benefit me on learning techniques and ways to not lie and be more honest with everyone including myself. These tips will also help me remind myself why I shouldn't lie and how to make sure I don't do it. The tips I am applying now are watching out for silent lies so for example if I am thinking something and I don't speak up about it I have just created a silent lie so what I'm doing right now is not staying quiet but speaking up, and another tip I am using is treating myself when I tell the truth so I can boost my motivation to be honest. These two tips I am using have made a difference in my life by helping me become more honest and giving myself reasons to being honest and making myself feel good about my honesty. I will incorporate the other tips into my Life Planning Goals and plans by being honest with myself about the goals I am listening and being truthful if I will be able to commit to them everyday.
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