Six Ways to Make People like you. If you want people to like
you….
Rule 1:
Become genuinely interested in other people
“Do
this and you will be welcome anywhere.”
“You
can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than
you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
Reflection:
If you are interested in others then that comes to show that you are caring and
many people would want a caring friend so they would speak to you. Thinking
about others is something kind to do and not everyone does that. Obviously if
you are nice to people they will like you because you haven’t done anything to
make them dislike you. Doing this will make you feel welcome anywhere. If you
are miserable with yourself then think about others. Don’t just revolve
everything on you because that will make people dislike you. What I will do to
apply this new rule is by starting to think about others and be interested with
anything they talk about. Even if they are going through something I will be
interested so I can help them and be there for them.
Rule 2: Smile
1) Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says,"I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then you force yourself to smile."
3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
Reflection: Always be kind to everyone if you want to be liked because if you are mean to them that is obviously going to give them a reason to dislike you. Just a simple smile can make someones day. If you aren't in a good mood still smile. Smiling at someone shows that you like them or they make you feel happy, or they are just simply glad to see you. Just giving a smile can do so much. Smiles create happiness and they show what you feel. So spread the happiness with your wonderful smiles.
Rule 3: Remember names
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Reflection: Obviously when you meet someone you will ask for their name or they will tell you it, so your only job is to remember it. It is rude if someone forgets your name. So doing this will probably make them dislike you. Also if you mistaken their name with someone else's. If you do forget their name just ask nicely what their name is instead of guessing and getting it wrong. Many people dislike it when you forget their names so if you want them to like you just make sure to not forget it. Names are very important. It is what someone is called after.
How to Remember Names:
1) Repeat it over and over
2) Turn someones name into an image so you can remember
3) Spell it out
4) Lead the way if you know your name will be hard to remember for the other person
5) Write is down
6) Speak up
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
Reflection: People like it when you listen to them. Especially if they need advice or help with any situation they are going through either bad or good. Also push people to talk about themselves. For example if they are shy then you start talking about yourself. It might make them feel more comfortable and maybe then they will start sharing things about themselves. This will make the person like you because it shows that you are interested in them.
5 Tips for active listening
1) Stay focused and give natural eye contact and be patient
2) Really listen and don't really think about what you should tell them next
3) Allow for periods of silence, wait till the other person speaks again
4) From time to time repeat the others persons words
5) Understand the emotions behind the words
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: When speaking to another person talk about their interests. If you don't know what they are then ask them. Talking about their interests will make the other person be more interested in the conversation and this will allow you both to have a great conversation. This will also show that you took the time to speak to them about their interests and you actually care about what they like or enjoy. This will make the person like you, because what is more better than someone that cares about you and your interests, especially if they know you are actually listening to them. The man's interests are things that they treasure so if they know that you actually put in time to want to learn what they are that will make them happy.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-- and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Reflection: When you speak to someone don't ever ignore them or put them to the side. Make them feel like you actually care about them and they mean something to you. Make them feel important. Show them that you truly need them to be there with you and that you have the time for them because they are important to you. Never be rude or mean to that because that shows that you don't care. Everyone in this world desires to feel important. No one wants to feel useless or worthless and no one should ever feel that way. So always be caring and make time for those that are important to you.
Reflection: This six rules I have informed you about are to help you to get people to like you if you want them to. This are the best examples and advices that can get people to like you. It is a good thing having people like you because it will bring less drama to your life and it will teach you how to be social and be able to talk to others by yourself. What I commit to do to apply the six rules is actually try this advice and be positive. Be social with others and be caring about whatever someone talks to me about and make sure I am listening.
Rule 2: Smile
1) Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says,"I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then you force yourself to smile."
3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
Reflection: Always be kind to everyone if you want to be liked because if you are mean to them that is obviously going to give them a reason to dislike you. Just a simple smile can make someones day. If you aren't in a good mood still smile. Smiling at someone shows that you like them or they make you feel happy, or they are just simply glad to see you. Just giving a smile can do so much. Smiles create happiness and they show what you feel. So spread the happiness with your wonderful smiles.
Rule 3: Remember names
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Reflection: Obviously when you meet someone you will ask for their name or they will tell you it, so your only job is to remember it. It is rude if someone forgets your name. So doing this will probably make them dislike you. Also if you mistaken their name with someone else's. If you do forget their name just ask nicely what their name is instead of guessing and getting it wrong. Many people dislike it when you forget their names so if you want them to like you just make sure to not forget it. Names are very important. It is what someone is called after.
How to Remember Names:
1) Repeat it over and over
2) Turn someones name into an image so you can remember
3) Spell it out
4) Lead the way if you know your name will be hard to remember for the other person
5) Write is down
6) Speak up
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
Reflection: People like it when you listen to them. Especially if they need advice or help with any situation they are going through either bad or good. Also push people to talk about themselves. For example if they are shy then you start talking about yourself. It might make them feel more comfortable and maybe then they will start sharing things about themselves. This will make the person like you because it shows that you are interested in them.
5 Tips for active listening
1) Stay focused and give natural eye contact and be patient
2) Really listen and don't really think about what you should tell them next
3) Allow for periods of silence, wait till the other person speaks again
4) From time to time repeat the others persons words
5) Understand the emotions behind the words
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: When speaking to another person talk about their interests. If you don't know what they are then ask them. Talking about their interests will make the other person be more interested in the conversation and this will allow you both to have a great conversation. This will also show that you took the time to speak to them about their interests and you actually care about what they like or enjoy. This will make the person like you, because what is more better than someone that cares about you and your interests, especially if they know you are actually listening to them. The man's interests are things that they treasure so if they know that you actually put in time to want to learn what they are that will make them happy.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-- and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Reflection: When you speak to someone don't ever ignore them or put them to the side. Make them feel like you actually care about them and they mean something to you. Make them feel important. Show them that you truly need them to be there with you and that you have the time for them because they are important to you. Never be rude or mean to that because that shows that you don't care. Everyone in this world desires to feel important. No one wants to feel useless or worthless and no one should ever feel that way. So always be caring and make time for those that are important to you.
Reflection: This six rules I have informed you about are to help you to get people to like you if you want them to. This are the best examples and advices that can get people to like you. It is a good thing having people like you because it will bring less drama to your life and it will teach you how to be social and be able to talk to others by yourself. What I commit to do to apply the six rules is actually try this advice and be positive. Be social with others and be caring about whatever someone talks to me about and make sure I am listening.
